A New Experience

Lately I've felt a little constrained by the requirements of the past several weeks. I've been at the hospital almost every day, spending hours to help my mom and sisters take care of my dad. I'm not that crazy about hospitals, but I've been able to take this one in stride without the painful judgments (really, condemnation) I harbored in the past. But lately I've been Really Not enjoying my time there. Once I noticed this, I started asking myself what else I could think that would allow me to not feel stuck in this situation.

The answer came from my meditation, again. The only way you ever feel like you're spinning your wheels is when you feel like "Oh, I've already spent weeks here doing this same thing, in this same room, for all this time." The new thought is, "Today when I go to the hospital, it is a completely new experience. It is a new day, I am a new person, and everything that happens today has never happened before." This has helped immensely, and I'm hoping that by sharing it with you, I will be able to utilize it again when and if I am in this kind of situation again.

Renae

Blogs are awesome!

It's taken a while for Andries and I to understand the whole idea with blogging, and the idea has taken off so much that finding a particular blog subject is like looking for a 4-leaf clover in a clover patch. But one thing definite about it -- it allows me to explore my ideas and perspectives and experiences in a new way and find out new things about them as I write.

Andries and I usually talk about new ideas every morning and enjoy new insights all the time. Now blogging has allowed us to expand in that area too, since we now can do that in writing. So if you're exploring new ideas and don't have someone in your immediate space to expand with, do it in a blog.

At first I thought it would be too hard to get people to share this space and make it more interactive, but now I realize that Law of Attraction is here, too, and will bring people to me as I allow it. So thanks for showing up!

Maybe we'll find yours and get the benefit of your online expansion, too :)

Judgment on top of judgment

So I'm sitting with my sisters and mother in the hospital, waiting to visit my dad again, and they start complaining about the nurses and the way things are done (actually not done), and I'm not getting into this topic of conversation because Andries and I don't usually beat those drums, and so what do I do?

Just to relieve the discomfort and boredom, I started appreciating the painting on the wall, and that helped a lot until they moved on to another topic, but it didn't improve either my own judgment about them practicing indignation and their habit of creating problems and blowing them up to gargantuan proportions. Eww, that sounds kind of a negative judgment, doesn't it? So it worked in the moment, but it didn't improve my habitual opinion of them or really make me feel better about their future behavior and the enjoyability of conversation with them.

Later on, Andries and I are discussing what would work better in this situation, and I realized that what I really want is for them to feel good about what the nurses do, to appreciate and allow the hospital staff to be competent, caring, and effective. Looking at my past experience with them and my feelings about them, I didn't think I could reasonably expect that. So, instead of trying to avoid it or change them, I could at least look for a better-feeling thought about what they do.

I realized that their actual desire is for my father to get better, to be like he was before, and there's nothing they can do to make sure that happens. So complaining and finding fault and actually just makes them feel like they're doing something for my dad. It seems like a lot of resistance, but actually they are trying to put themselves in a better place and feel more powerful. And when I found that thought, I felt immediate relief. Now I can hear them complain and feel good about them taking some power back. And if this thought feels better for a while and then stops feeling so good, I can find another. And now I know I will.

I realized long ago that judging other peoples judgments (negativity) doesn't work at all in the direction I'm intending for my life, and little by little, I find those areas and turn them around until they feel better. I makes me easier on myself, too, when I'm not being who I know I can be.

Us and those others

How many folks are there out 'there' that I would prefer not to do a whole lot of communicating with? Well, let them line up.

Sometimes, I would just rather not interact, co-create with some others. I might think that they just don't think like I do...they're too negative, not enough fun, not loving enouth, not compassionate, too much old thought...not enough like me!

Now let me think (scratch my jaw) could it be that I am so powerful that I am creating each of those experiences with the power of my own intentions...my own expectations of how the dynamics with another person or persons will play out.

Could it be that I am actually creating the not so happy experiences with others?

What a conundrum! What can I do? Woe is me! Well, 'hello', since I created a particular circumstance with another human being, I guess its okay to create another way to interact with myself and them.

All of the people I have ever known, I brought into my own orbit for my own benefit, so I guess I'll just have to accept my own perfidy in this drama and move on to a more beneficial way to enjoy myself wherever I am, with whoever I am talking to, whoever I am working with, whoever I am playing with, maybe, just maybe, I can make it all play.

Since I am a new person everyday, and so are they, my new plan of expectations has a good chance of working. Oh, yeah, it is already working.

Lotsa love and fun to all,

Andries

What a great moment! All life is a moment, and a moment doesn't mean a second or a minute, or any measure of time. A moment is the Now that you are feeling, and living in moments is inspiring and freeing and expansive.

We just joined Positive Intentions community and are ready to meet even more wonderful people who understand the Power of Positivity. We hope you'll check it out:

http://powerfulintent.ning.com/profile/PeaceRUs

Have a great one (moment)!

Renae

Appreciation

I'm baaack! After a long weekend, it's nice to be back pondering things LOA and beyond. It's a beautiful sunny day here and we're slowly acclimatizing to the warmer temperatures. At this time of the year, it's usually much, much easier to be positive and appreciative at night, when it cools down and the breeze can really be felt. Appreciation is such an interesting thing. A habit of appreciation is quite rare in my experience.

When people talk about being thankful or grateful, they are usually operating from having just experienced something very difficult or uncomfortable. Therefore, they are feeling the gratitude from the contrast of "bad" to "not bad" rather than just being here in this moment and feeling the good feeling of noticing it for what it is now, without comparing it to anything else. That is the only way that I used to be able to really feel that kind of feeling.

Now, Andries and I have been habitually practicing appreciation so much that I am able to use that as a tool to leverage myself out of dissatisfaction or even sadness. At first, appreciation can be difficult to feel when we are not used to finding things to appreciate. I used to have to pick small things like the weather or my coffee or the chair I was sitting in to start with. And my appreciation was rather grudging. I was afraid that if I appreciated my surroundings too much, the universe would say, "Oh, she's happy. We'll just leave her there." It took me a while to understand that nothing like that is true. Now I know that you can only progress in a positive way from appreciation.

Now I can appreciate the perfect workings of a perfect universe. I can appreciate the intricate timing and contrivance that brings me exactly what I need when I allow it. I do appreciate almost everything I've lived and am playing with bringing the rest into that lovely feeling of contentment. I look forward to many more things to appreciate, and I supremely appreciate my imagination, which allows me to expand into new ideas and experiences and line up with them in a powerful way.

I appreciate everyone who reads this and everyone who doesn't...

Renae

Yesterday I was talking about my affirmation experiences. I should have prefaced it with the comment that I tried affirmations as a creation tool many years ago...without much success. The idea that you can repeat the same word over and over until they become your reality was definitely lacking something, and I found that something to be the vibration of emotion. Adding that into the mix has made a universe of difference.

Just for a moment, let me dwell on the concept of dimensions. This will be short, as often, the time that we spend in other dimensions is miniscule. What if I understand in my heart, head and large toe that the vibrations I offer into this universe are resonating in a special vibrational place that is uniquely its own, and what if every frequency is its own dimension? If this is true then I must be traveling in, and experiencing many dimensions on a regular basis, often jumping from one to the other. Sounds like a 'trip' to me.

Fun for all

Andries

Allowing Them to Allow Me

I've had the most amazing week, with many new ways of seeing, and today I really got the idea of feeling discord from looking at things not wanted and knowing that a desire has been born from it, and looking for the actual desire, then following it to fruition. That's the idea.

Here's the experience. I felt the discord from not being understood or valued, and didn't even realize until this morning that I was feeling that. Then after exploring that feeling a bit, I realized that it was there to lead me to the desire that actually was being answered. So the desires were for 1) people to value me whether they understand me or not; 2) people to be able to think differently than I had noticed them doing; 3) me to be able to allow others to allow me. Case in point -- in parts of Asia, there are holy men who required to go out in the streets and beg for food. Some of them wear their robes, and others do not. But in that place, the people who see the beggars cannot tell who is actually a priest or a beggar, so they assume the best about the beggars they see. Can you see something like that happening here? We recently saw a movie about a guy who graduated from college then went on the road, ditched his car, and lived the life of a street person. He was extremely intelligent, charismatic, generous and spiritual. But no one who saw him would be able to tell any of that about him unless they looked beyond the surface.

The point of this explanation is that I must be able to allow people to look at me with understanding and/or value if I actually want to live the benefit of the desire that I have launched. Not only that, I must tap out the thoughts that keep me from allowing that (check out Robert G. Smith's Faster EFT). Then I must put myself in the position of expecting what I want to experience.

What a great tool! Now when I experience anything that is less than what feels good, I have a way to bring it around to benefit me rather than just putting up with it and thinking that because it involves other people, I have no power over my experience.

Have a great one,
Renae

How many affirmations have I played with? Happens all the time...I'm feelin' good... today is so beautiful... you are the best partner ever... I'm going to have a great meal at ___ restaurant, etc.
I am constantly affirming something, so why not do it deliberately. I think today I will affirm joy and love in my experience. Now the question I ask myself is "How do I create this experience?" I say an affirmation to myself..."I am experiencing joy and love in my life right now." The next step for me is this. Using the law of attraction I'll just feel the emotional drivers behind the experience. For example: just remembering how joyfully my daughters interact with the world, and how much I love them will certainly bring me to that place of appreciating and loving my own experience. Thus lining up with me.

This is the first time I have ever blogged. Seems like fun to me.

Andries